My Journey as a Holistic Sex Worker: From Curious to Passionate
"Curiosity is more important than knowledge."
-Albert Einstein
Ever since I first heard this quote, I’ve begun to recognize how true it is in my life. My current passion and company are the product of it!
When I was nineteen, I was working as a CNA in a senior retirement community. I loved my seniors, and always felt at home there. I’m a natural caregiver, and the fulfillment of providing comforting care to someone in need is beautiful. But eventually I became curious about other lifestyles and ways of making money.
Somehow, most likely through social media influence, I became interested in the idea of sex work. I didn’t have any real reference for it, only what little pieces of information I could gather online. Fortunately, I did have a friend who was supportive of my interest and often checked on me virtually during dates and such.
After chatting online with many different people, I began to gain some insight into people’s behavior when communicating online and how to spot red flags for scammers or emotionally toxic people. I went on coffee and lunch dates before providing my services, and I used that time to learn as much as I could in order to gauge their energy. I am happy to say that to this day I have never had a truly negative experience with a client. Instead, I often found unique connections with people who became very influential in my journey of love and self-discovery.
Through these experiences I began to notice patterns. Some of them were beautifully fulfilling and fun! The connection felt natural and easy, and I found myself laughing often. But others did not quite reach that high standard, even though the money I made was the same. It was then that my curiosity inspired me to think more about the differences in these experiences and why they felt worlds apart.
It didn’t take me long to realize that clear communication and positive intentions were the two biggest factors in a fun and fulfilling experience. When I was able to establish clear communication with my clients about boundaries, intentions and desires, the energy in the room shifted and became much more relaxed and easy to enjoy. When I wasn’t mentally prepared or felt flustered or nervous I didn’t communicate as clearly, and it was a different experience.
But the most important piece of this discovery that I had made was that it didn’t require me to depend on my client for a healthy and enjoyable experience. When I made sure to take the time to show up for myself mentally, physically and emotionally before my sessions, they were so much easier! Conversation flowed naturally, my answers were clear, and my decisions were well thought out. I now knew the secret to my happiest experiences!
Today, I am still growing and expanding in my knowledge of relationships, intimacy, communication and self-love. It’s been fantastic journey so far, and I have so much eagerness for wherever it leads me next. In the meantime, I will be maintaining my positive energy and holding space for as many beautiful beings as I can, and enjoying every bit of it! So don’t be shy…!
-SpryteTheFairy
